What are some things you wish more people knew about multiplicity?

I wish that people understood how difficult it is to get things done or to make decisions, as I never have access to everything I know about anything, even myself. To make it worse, people always think that I do the wrong thing intentionally, not that I made the wrong decision because I temporarily misunderstood my own circumstances. On top of that, my alters tell stories that sound like lies only because they are missing pieces of what happened, so it sounds different coming from a different alter, or that seems to contradict something else…. People end up making the tragically wrong conclusion that the horrors I've faced were made up, when in fact it was only a little different than I said, something that would make sense if I were about to explain… but normally no one puts that much effort into communicating with me.

I feel like mental health providers are ill-equipped to diagnose or treat this issue and that a more functional approach is needed if you've lived your life in fragments for a long time. To anyone living with this, don't give up trying to unite with the others - you will gain depth of understanding to your experiences and your life in general… you'll regain time. There are good things that come with it that you won't understand until you get there. The journey is worth it.

I think that dissociation and trauma need their own specialty and need to be addressed in a more comprehensive way. If you dissociate significantly, you won't be communicating in therapy very effectively about how things actually are.

This is very hard to live with. I'm hoping that those of you who are experiencing this will join me in trying to communicate our experience so that people can develop empathy for those of us who have a hard time in life, and so this can be spotted earlier in life.